Worried? Anxious? Feeling alone?
Feeling anxious is a normal human emotion. It helps us sometimes to meet that deadline or motivate us to do something out of our comfort zone like applying for a job. But sometimes anxiety can become overwhelming and can seem like it's taken over areas of our lives. If you feel overwhelmed or anxious know that there are resources here at Stonehill to help you.
Fresh Check Day, Saturday Oct. 2nd 2021
Fresh Check Day is Saturday October 2nd from 12pm-3pm on the quad. (Rain location is the Martin Institute Auditorium.)
Fresh Check Day is a mental health awareness and check in day for college students. Interactive booths hosted by student clubs and organizations engage students in topics that affect mental health including suicide awareness and prevention, anxiety, substance abuse, loneliness, eating disorders and more.
Learn about self care techniques and ways to prevent stress from building up. Pet a baby farm animal, get a free chair massage, relax to music provided by WSHL and check out the food truck for a delicious snack.
Participate in the fair and enter to win prizes such as gift cards and Stonehill gear.
- Nine out of Ten Table: 11:30am-1pm, Lower Dining Commons, Learn about suicide prevention and take the pledge to help a friend
- Q.P.R. Suicide Prevention Training: 1pm-2pm, Duffy 101, Learn the signs of suicide and how to safely intervene. To register email, firstname.lastname@example.org
Join us on Saturday September 25th from 9am-12pm as we participate in the Out of Darkness Walk at Borderland State Park in Easton. We walk to end suicide, to honor loved ones who have passed and to support those who still struggle.
To take the bus from Stonehill please register in advance by Sept. 17th to email@example.com.
To join the Stonehill Team visit our page at https://supporting.afsp.org/participant/2456277.
Tuesday October 5th at 7pm in the Meehan Atrium
Mental health matters. Join us for an open dialogue about mental health with Vice President for Academic Affairs and Provost DeBrenna Agbenyiga and Stonehill students who will share their stories and engage with students about mental health struggles and successes.
Coping with Grief
Coping With Grief
The loss of a friend or loved one is among the most traumatic events that a person can experience. The emotions of grief and the grieving process are painful but natural, expected and necessary parts of healing and recovery. There is no one way and no right or wrong way to grieve, and there is no schedule or deadline for the resolution of and recovery from loss. Nevertheless, many bereaved persons share some common feelings and reactions. Often people go through the stages of the grief process known as: shock and denial, anger and guilt, depression, and resolution.
Common Reactions to Loss
Emotions and Feelings
- Sadness, yearning, depressed mood, mood changes
- Feelings of helplessness & loss of control
- Panic and anxiety
- Fear of death
- Shock, denial, numbness
- Guilt, shame, remorse
- Tearfulness, crying
- Changes in sleep and/or eating patterns
- Anxiety/autonomic nervous system arousal
- Exaggerated startle response
- Increased somatic complaints or physical illnesses
Changes in Behavior
- Social withdrawal and/or isolation
- Preoccupation with the deceased
- Avoiding stimuli that are reminders of the deceased
- Increased use of alcohol or substances
- Changes in activity level
Changes in Thinking
- Poor concentration
- Confusion, forgetfulness
- Feelings of unreality
How to Help Yourself Deal with Grief and Loss
- Gather information - Develop your understanding of the grieving process. Talk with members of bereavement support organizations and/or clergy. Look up resources.
- Participate in rituals/say goodbye - Ceremonies and rituals help us to make the "unreal" more real and to move toward accepting our loss. Attend the funeral or memorial service. Mark important anniversaries in ways that are meaningful to you.
- Care for yourself physically - Get adequate rest, nutrition and exercise.
- Care for yourself emotionally - Give yourself permission to grieve. Allow quiet time alone to reflect and to explore and experience your thoughts and feelings. Allow time to heal without setting unrealistic goals and deadlines. Resist/delay making major decisions or changes in your life.
- Express your feelings - Allow opportunities to express the full range of your emotions. This includes sadness, but also perhaps, fear, guilt, anger, resentment, and relief. Avoiding emotions through excessive activity, denial, or abuse of substances complicates and prolongs the pain of loss.
- Seek support - Using social support is essential. Support from others reduces isolation and loneliness and increases one's sense of security, safety and attachment. Talk to friends openly about your loss. If religion or spirituality are important to you, talk with a member of the clergy or a spiritual advisor. Consider joining a support group for people who have experienced a similar loss.
- Consider seeking professional help - Counseling Services offers individual counseling to support students with grief. We can also refer you to resources in the community.
How to Help a Friend
- Talk openly to the bereaved person about his/her loss and feelings. Don't try to offer false cheer or minimize the loss.
- Be available - Call, stop by to talk, share a meal or activity. Your presence and companionship are important.
- Listen/be patient - Listening is an often overlooked gift of yourself. Allow the bereaved person to vent feelings. Don't judge the person's thoughts or feelings. Don't feel you need to offer advice. Listening itself is very powerful.
- Take some action - Send a card, write a note, call. This is important not just immediately after the loss, but especially later, when grief is still intense but when others have resumed their daily lives and support for the bereaved may dwindle.
- Encourage self-care - Encourage your friend to care for himself or herself physically, emotionally, and socially. Encourage your friend to seek support and/or professional help, if appropriate.
- Accept your own limitations - Accept that you cannot eliminate the pain your friend is experiencing. Grief is a natural, expected response to loss and each person must work through it in his/her own way and at his/her own pace. Be supportive, but care for yourself too.
Additional Mental Health Resources for Students
Additional Mental Health Resources for Students
Offers life skills coaching on many wellness topics including relationship issues, roommate conflicts, homesickness, loneliness, etc.Call 508-565-1544, email firstname.lastname@example.org or stop by the office at Roche Dining Commons Room 113.
Offers free and confidential counseling. To make an appointment call 508-565-1331.
Concerned about loans, debt, how to pay for tuition? Call 508-565-1088
Struggling with classes, need help managing time? Call 508-565-1306
Have you been diagnosed with a disability? Find out about how to request accommodations. Call 508-565-1306
Looking for ways to become more involved with diversity? Call 508-565-1409
From chronic headaches to upset stomachs to help managing a chronic health problem. Health Services can help address many physical ailments. Call 508-565-1331.
Whether looking to enhance your spirituality or meet new people, campus ministry can help you learn how to become your most authentic self. Call 508-565-1487.
The JED Campus Foundation is a national organization which addresses the mental health needs of college students. This website contains links to resources for diverse populations for therapy, podcasts, helplines, non-profit organizations and social media.
Online Surveys, Support and Resources
Online surveys, support and resources
- Ulifeline is a project of the JED foundation and is a valuable resource for college mental health topics. Access to articles, personal assessment tools, hotlines, peer stories, and many self-help topics are available through this valuable site.
- Taking Care of Yourself After a Traumatic Event Handout
- Coping with Grief and Loss
- Half of Us is a collaboration between the JED Foundation and MTV to raise awareness and provide resources around college mental health.
- BASICS and ECheckup To Go is available through Health and Wellness Education for students to assess alcohol and other drug use.
- www.loveisrespect.org is a website that offers information on healthy vs unhealthy relationships including helpful quizzes and fact sheets.
- National Eating Disorders Association is a non-profit organization whose mission is to help individuals who suffer from disordered eating as well as tools for their friends and family to learn more and give support. Eating Disorder Screening Tool: Can help someone who is concerned about their own eating or a friend or loved one.